When someone breaks my trust, I usually have a hard time forgiving him or her. More often then not, I would rather drop the friendship then give someone a second chance. However, there are a few people in my life that are too important to lose.
When my boyfriend and I had first started dating, he lied to me about where he was. The lie was stupid and insignificant; he had no real reason to lie to me. Once I found out that he was lying, I felt sick to my stomach. I had put my trust in him and I did not understand how he could play with my emotions like that. My first reaction was to yell. I was furious. I was shouting at him on the phone, but realized it was going nowhere. We ended up talking things out, and I was able to see how truly sorry he was for hurting me.
The only thing that can restore trust is time. It has been over a year now and sometimes I still second-guess him when he tells me things. However, they only way to get past the problem is to let him show me that he is capable of being honest with me. Because I value our relationship, I decided to work out the problem instead of giving up on him. If lying were a habit in our relationship I would end it, but because we talked about it and he has not lied to me since, I feel as if I made the right decision in letting go of my anger.
I definitely feel you on this. I was in a relationship where I was being lied to as well. However, the lies were constant and it was extremely hard for me to gain his trust back. His excuse was ‘I didn’t want to tell you because I thought that you would get mad.’ Stupid right? Well, I tried my best to trust him but every time I would give him a chance to gain it back, he would fail. I finally broke things off with him and never looked back! That relationship definitely took a toll on the relationships I had after, it was really hard to trust people after that.
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