What I Have Learned

I have learned that conflict is not a bad thing. Understanding that conflict is okay and a necessary part of life was huge for me. It made me much more relaxed and it really improved my relationship with my boyfriend. I have learned that conflict is healthy, as long as everyone involved works together to come up with a solution. I have also learned that I need to listen to other people. Sometimes I get so wrapped up in my own thoughts and emotions that I forget to pay attention to the other persons needs. This is a problem that I have had since I was little and I wasn't even aware of it until I took this class. It is really hard for me to mention everything that I have learned because there is so much I have taken away from this class. To sum things up, this class made me learn a lot about myself and the choices I make while handling conflicts. This course was a huge eye opener, and I plan to continue using the concepts that I have learned in this class in my personal and professional life.

Strengths & Weaknesses

Strengths

• The professor was easy to contact. I never had to wait more than 24 hours to hear back from her.
• The book was helpful and easy to read.
• I really liked the weekly posts. It was a nice way to get to know the other students in the class.
• The assignments were helpful and really pushed us to understand class concepts. 
• The workshop assignment was my favorite part of the class. I had never done anything like that before. I was really intimidated at first, but ended up learning a lot from it.
• Class material is useful for my professional and personal life.

Weaknesses

• I do not think there were any weaknesses in the class. Everything was very useful.

I would definitely recommend this class to my friends. I learned a lot and had fun participating in the class discussions. I think everyone could benefit from this course (:

Chapter 16- Conflict

Before I took this class I definitely had a negative view of conflict. I always thought conflict was bad because it meant confronting an issue and usually arguing about it. However, this is not necessarily true. Now that I have taken this class, I understand that conflicts are normal. Not all conflict is bad, as long as you follow the right steps or methods to work through them. If conflicts are handled correctly, everyone involved should be happy with the outcome.
In the past when my boyfriend and I would argue, I would get really worried that he was going to get sick of the arguments and leave. He always told me he hated conflict and avoided it. During the semester, I would talk to him a lot about class concepts and encouraged him to try having a different outlook on things. We now understand that conflicts are completely normal, that how we handle them is the most important part. It is definitely important for people to know that it is normal and okay to have conflicts.

Anxiety-Chapter 12

“Anxiety is a tension that occurs when people perceive danger in a situation” (Abigail & Cahn, pg 214). Anxiety happens when people fear things about situations such as, people conflicting with their goals or when they feel wrong about their own actions. Anxiety can also lead to suppressed issues.

When I was in the 4th grade I had a math teacher that used to pick on me in class. For no reason, she would make me cry in front of the other students. Math has always been a subject I struggled with the most, but I was a huge over achiever and wanted to make sure that my grades were perfect. Every night I would stay up with my father trying to do my math homework. My fear of my teacher caused me to spend way too much time perfecting my homework. I would end up going to bed with major anxiety, unable to sleep because I was so stressed out about my math homework. This was a cycle that continued for several months until my mother found out about my teacher harassing me and nearly got her fired.

Attributions- Chapter 12

I have made false attributions a lot while texting. In a text message you are not able to see the person’s facial expressions, read their body language, or hear the tone of their voice. This has caused me to assume things that were not necessarily true. I have a friend that can be pretty blunt at times which causes me to believe she is mad at me. Usually I am able to tell her mood by her facial expressions or the way she says things. However, when we are texting it is much more difficult to tell if she is simply stating something, or being rude. Back in high school I was much more sensitive then I am now. Sometimes when her and I would text, I could not figure out if she was upset with me or not and my feelings would get really hurt. I just assumed that she was angry at me for something and felt terrible about it. Later, I learned that was just the way she communicated and to not be so sensitive about things.

Sometimes at work I make accurate attributions that help me. I work in cosmetics and in my department; we sell several different makeup brands, much like a Sephora. Philosophy is an expensive skin care line so usually the women looking at the Philosophy products spend more money than other customers. Knowing this, I try to be as knowledgeable and helpful as possible, in hopes that I can persuade the customer to purchase more products. I am helpful to every customer that walks into my department, but I have learned that women who shop for Philosophy products want that expert product knowledge and are more willing to spend money.

Forgiveness, Reconciliation, and Revenge-Chapter 10

When I typed the word forgiveness into google 66,300,000 results appeared in .10 seconds, about 8,800,000 results for reconciliation, and about 50,700,000 for revenge. The word forgiveness produced a lot of websites with definitions and also techniques or information on how to forgive. There were also a lot of religious sites. I believe this produced the most results because a lot of people struggle with forgiveness. It is much easier to get angry at someone than it is to let go of sour emotions. People probably seek advice on how to forgive through the internet.
When I searched reconciliation, the first page was full of almost all definitions or links to religious(mostly catholic) websites. This word did not provide a lot of useful information for me, other than the definitions.
The websites for the word revenge were much different than those for forgiveness and reconciliation. They were all for a television series titled Revenge, except for one definition. There was also a Facebook page for the show. To get results that would benefit me, I would have to be more specific with what I type into the Google search engine.

Why Don't People Forgive?-Chapter Ten.

Abigail and Cahn explain that there are may reasons why people do not forgive. One reason is that the person who committed the offense has not admitted their, "wrongdoing, apologized, or asked for forgiveness"(179). If the other person has not addmitted their wrongdoing, the person who feels hurt has no desire to forgive.
The way a person has apologized also plays a role in whether or not a person will forgive them. "When a person is offended, being offered an apology that is too elaborate for the offense or too simple may result in a lack of forgiveness"(179). If I feel as if a person's apology is not sincere, I have a hard time forgiving them. Knowing that a person has actually thought about why I am upset and has taken my feelings into consideration is what makes me forgive them. I would much rather have no apology, than an apology that I know is not sincere.

Forgive- Chapter Ten

When I was in High School I had a boyfriend throughout my senior year. After we broke up, he began dating his best friend. Throughout the relationship I thought it was strange that him and this other girl were so close however, I trusted that they were just friends. After we broke up he told me he still had feelings for me and that there was a possibility of getting back together in the future. I mentioned his best friend to him and he promised that he had no feelings for her. A few days later we were at the same party, and I found him in the backyard with her. I approached him about it, and ended up punching him in the face. At the time, I was devastated. I felt confused and betrayed. Did he have feelings for her throughout our whole relationship?  Normally I try to talk things out and have good conflict management skills, but I really did feel like he deserve the hit. Although this is not something that bothers me now, it was very heartbreaking at the time. Luckily, this is the only betrayal I have ever had in my life. Years have passed and this situation no longer bothers me. I have no anger or hatred towards this person, because the situation does not matter to me anymore. It's weird how something that mattered so much at one point in time, can have little importance later on in life. 

Facebook-Chapter Nine

I do not have a Facebook or any other type of social networking website. I feel like it would be a place for drama and is almost like a dating site. If I were to make one, I would make sure people got a good impression of me. I don't know who would try to access my page, so I would make sure that it was appropriate for anyone to see. I have family members and coworkers on Facebook, so it would be important for me to make sure the content was appropriate.

I have many friends who complain about what has been posted on their Facebook walls. They have told me stories when  pictures of them drinking or smoking at parties had been posted on their walls and their families saw them. In my opinion, they are asking for it. If you are posing for pictures with your friends, you should expect them to get posted on Facebook or whatever social networking site you use. If you do not want these type of pictures posted, you need to tell your friends or disable them from being able to post things on your wall. Part of the reason I do not have a Facebook is because I want to keep my personal life private.

This relates to conflict and commuication because if someone were to post something that you do not want on your Facebook wall, you have to think of the best way to approach them about it. If someone is talking badly about you on Facebook, you have to decide how you are going to handle the situation. Facebook is just another way to have conflict and drama in your life. People who choose to use it need to know how to manage conflict situations.

Playful Spirit-Chapter Seven

When we develop a playful spirit we are changing our attitude about life. This allows us to lighten up and view things in a more playful manner.
There are a few steps to help achieve this playful spirit:
1. Don't blame yourself for everything that goes wrong or doesn't pan out.
2. Look for situational factors that you may learn to accept rather than fight against
3. Visualize absurdities. Make a joke to yourself of something negative.

Although there are many steps listed, I find these three to be the most helpful. I tend to stress myself out a lot, but my parents have helped me realize that sometimes I just need to go with the flow. One saying my dad has used since I was a kid is, "We'll cross that bridge when we get to it". I tend to overanalyze things and stress out about things that are either out of my control or can not be dealt with at that time. My father has taught me to have a playful spirit about things. He has shown me that life has a lot of ups and downs and it is important to understand that things aren't always going to work out as planned. In order to get through situations like these, I try my best to lighten my mood and just go with the flow.

Anger-Chapter Seven

Sometimes when I am angry, I blow up. If a situation has gotten out of control and I feel like I don't know how to express myself, I explode. I have only done this with people I am extremely close with. If this happens, it is usually because I feel helpless and can not control my emotions. However, this usually ends badly because it causes the other person to get upset right away.
I usually show some type of emotion during an argument. I wouldn't say I do not express anger at all, but that I express it calmly. If I am upset about something, I will make it known. However, I try my hardest to do so in a way that will allow me and the other person(s) to come to some sort of happy conclusion. Expressing anger calmly allows for a DISCUSSION, not a fight. Of course, any type of discussion can turn into a fight, but it allows you more control over the situation and does not create a tense environment from the start. This always ends up much better than blowing up does.

Three Solutions-Week Eight.

The first solution, balancing work and play, is something that I do on a daily basis. It is really important for me to take care of my priorities such as my job or my school work, but it is just as important to take care of myself and do things that I enjoy. I work as a makeup artist and absolutely love my job and the people that I work with. Although it is considered work, I have a lot of fun doing it. However, when I get home it is my time to relax or do something fun with my boyfriend like take a walk or see a movie.


The second solution, changing the way we feel about our everyday activities, is something that I have been working on this past year. I tend to get cranky and irritated when I am doing something I do not necessarily enjoy, but I have learned that having a positive attitude can change the way I go about my daily activities. Finding joy in the things that I do makes me much happier of a person.


The third solution, integration, explains that joy and pain are oftentimes found in the same place. Life isn't easy, to get to a good or happy place we have to struggle. In order to get good grades in school, I sometimes have to stay up for hours doing research, studying, or writing papers. Although I may experience some pain, I see the joy in this hard work.

Sharing Power- Week Seven

When there is a power struggle in a relationship, one person dominates the other. Abigal and Cahn state that, "to improve the conflict climate, change in the power dimension needs to come from the powerful people, such as bosses, parents and other older family members, and teachers. They must value the input of others to seek to focus on resolving problems" (107). It is important to work together when solving conflicts. The book states that there are several ways to avoid abusing power:

1. Give up some of the more obvious power resources and symbols of authority. 

2. Make power resources available to everyone in the group.

3. Increase levels of interest.

4. The dominating person can give power to the relationship.

When I was younger I was a very bossy to my sister. Because I was older than her, I felt I had more authority and had the ability to "make the rules". This actually led to more conflict because my sister felt that she had no voice in the relationship. As I got older I was able to understand that I was abusing my power as an older sister, and tried to change it. Now, my sister and I hardly ever get into arguments. Because I show that I respect my sister despite our 6 year age difference, we are able to have a relationship where there is no power struggle.

Unbalanced Power Relationship-Week Seven

An unbalanced power relationship is exhausting and unfair. If you are the person with more power, you make all the rules. What you say goes and no one is able to argue that. In some situations, it is important for one person to have the power. For example, parent to child relationships. Although it is important for the parent(s) to have the power or control, it is important for them to still have a healthy and balanced relationship with their children. Even in situations where it is normal to have a person with more power, it is important for them to not completely dominate the other person.

If you are the person with less power, you are at a great disadvantage. It is tiring and draining when you are always being told what to do and how to do it. I often feel bad for the janitors at my job. Most of them do not have great English speaking skills and are women in their forties. Rather than create a relationship with the house keeping staff, I have seen a lot of my coworkers and managers boss them around. Although they may not be out on the sales floor or in meetings all day, their jobs are just as important as ours. If we did not have the housekeeping staff, we would not be able to function. Rather than have an unbalanced power relationship where I am always demanding things from them, I have shown the staff that I appreciate what they do and am always thanking them for their assistance. I have shown them that I do not think that I have power over them, because I don’t. We are all a team and should work together to create a happy environment.

Trust-Week Seven

         When someone breaks my trust, I usually have a hard time forgiving him or her. More often then not, I would rather drop the friendship then give someone a second chance. However, there are a few people in my life that are too important to lose.

         When my boyfriend and I had first started dating, he lied to me about where he was. The lie was stupid and insignificant; he had no real reason to lie to me. Once I found out that he was lying, I felt sick to my stomach. I had put my trust in him and I did not understand how he could play with my emotions like that. My first reaction was to yell. I was furious. I was shouting at him on the phone, but realized it was going nowhere. We ended up talking things out, and I was able to see how truly sorry he was for hurting me.

         The only thing that can restore trust is time. It has been over a year now and sometimes I still second-guess him when he tells me things. However, they only way to get past the problem is to let him show me that he is capable of being honest with me. Because I value our relationship, I decided to work out the problem instead of giving up on him. If lying were a habit in our relationship I would end it, but because we talked about it and he has not lied to me since, I feel as if I made the right decision in letting go of my anger. 

Goal Statement-Week Five

A goal statement is, "a description of what you want specifically. It states what you want, would like, prefer, hope for, expect, or ask"(78). I really like goal statements because it is a way for both you and the other person to understand your needs/wants. I use goal statements a lot when trying to resolve conflicts because it gives me and the other person involved something to work towards. I feel like arguments are hard to resolve without goal statements because no one is really sure on what changes need to be made. When me and my boyfriend try to resolve conflicts, we each try to state some sort of change that we would like to see happen. If we do not agree, we try to compromise and come up with something that we can both work towards. When people do not set goals, things are a lot harder to accomplish.

Speaking or Listening-Week Five

 When others are speaking, I am usually focusing on what they are saying and what type of advice I can offer them. Most of my friends come to me whenever they need someone to talk to because I actually listen to their problems. However, if I am the one with some sort of a problem, I usually do not focus on what the other person is saying as much as I am my own idea. I do not completely shut the other person out, but I am usually so worked up that rather than fully listening to what the other person is saying, I just want to get my points across.

I have never tried writing down what a person has told me, but I think I would be able to do so. Even if I am mostly focused on my own thoughts, I am still hearing the other person out. I don’t think the issue is that I don’t hear them out; I think I am just too hard headed most of the time to take in what they are saying and change my perspective. So, if someone is seeking advice from me, I am all ears. However, if I am the one involved in a conflict I may be more interested in my own ideas, but I am still listening when others speak.

Stopping A Conflict-Week Five

It is usually not very hard for me to stop a conflict. I try my best to stop and listen to what the other person’s needs are to really get to the root of a problem. However, if the conflict is with someone close to me and my feelings have been hurt, I have a much harder time trying to stop, think, listen, and communicate.

Although I do not currently use this method, I believe it is a good idea to take a “time out” during an argument. The book suggests exiting temporarily or getting a glass of water. I know for me, taking showers or short walks makes me feel fresh or rejuvenated. During my next argument I will try to stop and take some time to think about things before moving on with the issue. This would allow me time to reevaluate and process what has happened. Taking time to think about things could allow me time to see things from different perspectives.

My advice is to study the S-TLC system and to figure out your strengths and weaknesses. During your next argument, try out one or two of these methods and see how they help to better your next confrontation.

Final Agreement-Week Four

A final agreement is an agreement, which lists behavioral commitments that everyone promises to abide to. The mediator keeps track of all areas of agreement so that he or she has a rough draft of all possible options. It is the mediator’s duty to strive for balance and equality for everyone, but they should remain neutral and not comment either positively or negatively on the outcome. 

One of my roommates had a dog, which annoyed everyone in the house. I was the only one who was pretty neutral about the situation, so I ended up becoming the mediator. An agreement was signed by all the roommates about rules regarding the dog, some benefiting the dog owner and some benefiting the other housemates. Everyone in the house kept a copy of the agreement so that there would be no confusion on the new house rules. In the end, this final agreement created boundaries for everyone and helped make the house much more peaceful. 

Fractionation, Framing, Reframing, and Common Ground-Week Four

Fractionation- When a mediator breaks down an argument into smaller ones. This makes it easier for the disputants to solve each problem one at a time and get to the root of the problem.

Framing- When a mediator asks questions that do not pass judgment on anyone involved.

Reframing- When a mediator takes someone’s statement, which is passing judgment or blame, and either rephrases it or reshapes it to make the disputants see it from a different light.

Common Ground- These are attitudes, values, behaviors, expectations, and goals that the disputants can agree upon.

A good example of fractionation was an argument I had with my boyfriend on Valentines Day. I was upset because I had been trying to plan a dinner with him for about 3 weeks, but he seemed to have no real interest in celebrating. Because of our busy schedules we wouldn’t have been able to do anything until after 9 so although I was fine with keeping things simple, I was hurt that he didn’t even acknowledge that it was valentines day. What I thought was his lack of interest in me, turned out to be much bigger than I had originally thought. After a few hours of talking, we broke down the initial argument into several components so we could get to the root of the problem and make sure we were both on the same page. It turned out that there were a lot of things going on in his personal and family life that were effecting our relationship and after using fractionation, we were able to discover the root of the issue. Now that we have had this talk, I see a big improvement in his overall attitude. If we hadn’t used fractionation to solve our problems, I would have thought that my boyfriend was losing interest in me when really, there were a lot of other struggles he was going through that I didn’t even know about.

Communication Majors, Lawyers, or Psychotherapists-Week Four

 I believe that communication majors make good mediators because we know how to listen. Even when someone isn't good at expressing themselves, communication majors are able to listen and figure out what a person is really trying to say. Rather than just come up with a quick solution, communication majors care to hear everyones side of the story and pay attention to the actual needs of everyone involved.
Although a lawyer may listen to you, it is their job to defend you and make sure you win, not necessarily resolve conflict. Because of this, lawyers are unable to effectively resolve an issue and come up with a solution to satisfy more than one person.
Psychotherapists may listen, but they also overanalyze. I believe that a psychotherapist would be better at mediating a situation better than a lawyer, but it would not be comfortable for the people involved. Every little thing would be analyzed and broken down.

Choosing The Appropriate Communication Option-Week Three

There are three aspects to affective communication: the occasion, the other person, and your needs. An occasion is a situation, time, or location in which certain behaviors take place. What may be appropriate in one setting is not appropriate in another. We treat people according to the relationship we share with them, which is why it is important to recognize the other person. How you speak to your grandmother may be different than how you speak to your best friend. It is important to recognize these differences because these people are directly affected by your behavior. Lastly, you need to recognize your needs. Abigail and Cahn explain that, “We must satisfy at least some of our needs if we want to live a life worth living, but some needs are better put off at least temporarily or reduced to a less prominent position”(63). Although it is important to identify you needs, it is just as important to compromise and work with the other person in order to come to a resolution.

I remember a time where my boyfriend and I were just not getting along. We were extremely irritated with one another and were not able to communicate without pointless bickering. We had gone to my parent’s house for a family BBQ and it was obvious to everyone that we were not getting along. We realized that this was not the appropriate occasion to be bickering and decided to save the argument for a better time where we would be able to talk in private and come up with an agreement to satisfy both of our needs.

Abuse or Discipline? Week Three

There is a big difference between being abusive and teaching your child a lesson. I believe a lot of parent’s cross the line of abuse and proper punishment because they feel as if they have lost control of a situation.I do not feel that physical contact is ever a proper punishment for doing something bad.

Growing up, my parents never once put their hands on me. As a child I got time outs and as a teen I was grounded or my privileges were taken away. In my opinion, these punishments were proper and effective. At a young age my parents taught me to have respect for others. Because of this respect I had for my parents, I hardly ever disobeyed them or broke their rules. If I did do something they didn’t approve of, rather than spank or hit me, my parents talked to me and explained why I was being punished. If my parents had ever been physical with me, I would have lost that respect and trust I shared with them.

One time my mom and I were playing around in the kitchen. She was pretending to be irritated at me and swat me with a pan. At the time we thought it was hilarious but her wrist ended up giving out and she accidentally tapped the top of my head with the pan. Although it was an accident and my mother felt terrible, my feelings were really hurt. If my parents had ever intentionally been physical with me in any way, I know that our relationship wouldn’t be as strong as it is today.

As adults when we get into an argument is it ever okay to slap someone or hit a person with a belt? In most circumstances this would be classified as abuse. So why is it any different with a child? If I would not hit my boyfriend or my parents for doing something bad, I would not hit my child. In my opinion, I think people overstep their authority to punish their children the second they lay their hands on them.

I feel as if children are able to understand that their will be repercussions for their bad actions without the parent ever having to lay a hand on them. I believe that actually explaining why the child is in trouble followed by another form of punishment other than spanking or hitting is far more effective and creates a better relationship between the parent and child.

Relationship-Centered Orientation Week 3.

In dealing with conflict, I find myself leaning towards the relationship-centered orientation. I believe that I prefer this type of orientation because it allows me to see the "we" in an argument. I try my best to satisfy my needs, while respecting the other person's as well.

When it comes to communication behavior, I am definitely assertive. Abigail and Cahn describe assertive communication as, "the ability to speak up for one's interests, concerns, or rights in a way that does not interfere with the interests or infringes on the rights of others"(53). I always take charge of a situation and voice my opinions, but I make sure to do so in a way that does not offend the other person involved. I am usually satisfied with the outcome of a situation while using this orientation because typically everyone’s needs are met.

The other two orientations include the other-centered orientation and the self-centered orientation. I feel like neither of these orientations apply to me and that I typically stick with relationship-centered orientation. I may be more willing to compromise with a person I am closer to such as a family member or my boyfriend, but I try my best to show respect and come up with an outcome to satisfy both me and the other person involved.

The Inevitability of Conflict Principle

The inevitability of conflict principle "runs contrary to the idea that, if we look long and hard, we can find people with whom we share conflict free lives"(7). I chose to discuss this principle because I believe it is important for people to understand that conflict is something that is impossible to avoid. A lot of people go through life believing that being nice and avoiding confrontation means they will never come across conflict, but this principle proves that to be wrong. Rather than focusing on avoiding conflict all together, people should learn how to better manage conflict when they are forced to face it.

In the past I tried really hard to avoid conflict completely. Even if something was bothering me, I kept my mouth shut and pretended things were fine in an attempt to avoid conflict. By not facing my issues, I was under the impression that I didn't have any. I soon realized how unhappy and overwhelmed I was. It was exhausting trying to pretend everything was perfect all of the time when it really wasn't.

I now understand that conflict is inevitable, no matter how nice of a person you are. Rather than ignoring my issues, I approach them in a reasonable manner. I feel as if my communication skills regarding conflict have improved immensely. I now focus my time on learning how to approach conflict the right way instead of pretending conflict isn't there.

Non-Process View of Communication

As explained in chapter two, a process view of communication consists of 5 steps: prelude, triggering, initiation, differentiation, and resolution. In order to come to a resolution, all parties involved must follow these steps.

For the most part I believe that I am fairly good at resolving conflict. I am a sensitive person and am very aware of my feelings as well as those around me. I like to discuss problems in a calm manner and work through them to find a solution that makes everyone happy. I love to talk through problems and find the root of the issue but my boyfriend is the complete opposite. He is not in touch with his emotions and has a hard time communicating. In his eyes the best way to solve a problem is to avoid it until it goes away. For him the problem isn’t that he doesn’t want to work through issues, it’s that he doesn’t understand how. In my opinion a non-process view of communication happens when a person is not even able to address an issue in the first place.  His inability to work through problems makes me feel discouraged and I begin to lose focus and forget the 5-step process.

To fix this, we usually will drop the issue and take a couple of hours to ourselves. This gives us the chance to clear our minds and figure out how we feel about the situation. Later when we have calmed down and have had time to think, we are able to discuss the situation and usually come up with some type of agreement. 

Conflict is Inevitable

Conflict is inevitable. I believe that conflict is an inborn trait, something that is instinctive for people even at a young age. Once a person starts to develop their own thoughts and opinions, it is only natural for them to have conflict with those with opposing views. Even young children come across conflict before they are able to speak, becoming fussy or throwing temper tantrums when they do not get their way. It is human nature to have conflicts in interpersonal relationships.

I actually believe that conflict is valuable in a relationship. The main reason why my past relationships hadn’t worked out was because we argued too much and couldn’t come up with solutions to our problems. Conflict is natural and is going to happen no matter how hard you try to avoid it. In my opinion, conflict is a good way to test the strength of a relationship. If someone is willing to work with me through problems, I know they are someone I want to be in my life. I would not want to have a relationship with someone who wasn’t willing to communicate.

Blog # 1

Hey everyone! My alias name is sheepyhead. My whole life my parents have referred to me as sleepyhead because of how much I love to nap and sheep are my favorite animal, so I just combined the two to make this name. This is my fourth year at SJSU and I will be graduating Spring 2013. I started at SJSU as a business major but made the change to Communication Studies last year. This class interests me because I have always been the person trying to resolve situations and work out conflicts between friends.

As I stated before I love to nap, so if I am not at school or work I will most likely be at home relaxing with my boyfriend! I also enjoy visiting my family or hanging out with friends. I work at Macys as a makeup artist and I love what I do! After SJSU I plan on moving away to attend cosmetology and barber school.

I look forward to getting to know all of you :)