Abigail and Cahn explain that there are may reasons why people do not forgive. One reason is that the person who committed the offense has not admitted their, "wrongdoing, apologized, or asked for forgiveness"(179). If the other person has not addmitted their wrongdoing, the person who feels hurt has no desire to forgive.
The way a person has apologized also plays a role in whether or not a person will forgive them. "When a person is offended, being offered an apology that is too elaborate for the offense or too simple may result in a lack of forgiveness"(179). If I feel as if a person's apology is not sincere, I have a hard time forgiving them. Knowing that a person has actually thought about why I am upset and has taken my feelings into consideration is what makes me forgive them. I would much rather have no apology, than an apology that I know is not sincere.
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