Although I do not currently use this method, I believe it is a good idea to take a “time out” during an argument. The book suggests exiting temporarily or getting a glass of water. I know for me, taking showers or short walks makes me feel fresh or rejuvenated. During my next argument I will try to stop and take some time to think about things before moving on with the issue. This would allow me time to reevaluate and process what has happened. Taking time to think about things could allow me time to see things from different perspectives.
My advice is to study the S-TLC system and to figure out your strengths and weaknesses. During your next argument, try out one or two of these methods and see how they help to better your next confrontation.
I am just like you! When someone says something bad about someone I really care about, it is hard for me to stop the conflict! It is great that you already use the S-TLC system I on the other hand, am trying my hardest to remember this system when a conflict arises. It is great that you take a “time out” and go for walks or take a shower to calm down; I may begin to do this as well. I as well, also highly suggest the S-TLC system for any conflict it is a great way to solve a conflict and strengthens communication skills.
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